HAIR SETBACK ALERT: What Do You Do When Things Don’t Go as Planned?

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Well, things have been going swimmingly since I went natural. I have been natural for eight months now and, so far, my hair has been growing slightly faster than average. And, I have also been maintaining my length successfully each month. I have had no major hair setbacks … until now … Sigh.

Lately, I’ve been noticing a lot of hair fall: excessive shedding, single strand knots, more hair in my sink, etc. I didn’t pay too much attention to it until after 4-5 weeks, and I realized that my hair was a tangled mess and was still shedding excessively. It also didn’t appear to be growing. Even though I wear my hair in its curly/coily state 95% of the time, I usually can tell each month whether my hair has grown at least a half-inch before I pull out my measuring tape. Well, this month, for the first time, I couldn’t! I started to worry, but I told myself it was my overactive Alice-in-Wonderland-sized imagination. But, when I measured my hair in various places all over my head, the immutable truth stared back at me in the mirror … I had lost a 1/2″ of growth. My hair went from 6.5″-7.0″ to 6.0″-6.5″!

I felt angry and confused. I wracked my brain to try to figure out the cause but, like most things, this didn’t happen overnight. I analyzed and reanalyzed my routine, and I realized that for the last month, I hadn’t been following my routine. Heck, I hadn’t been following ANY routine!

I recently found out that my mom has stage one kidney disease. That, on top of some other ailments, had left her completely demobilized. So, my sister and I have been sharing the responsibility of taking care of her around-the-clock while my dad is at work. I hadn’t realized, until now, that I had only deep conditioned my hair ONCE in the last month. I normally deep condition my hair ONCE A WEEK! I hadn’t been moisturizing and sealing my hair properly. I hadn’t been doing much of anything (in regards to my hair). And, to make matters worse, I haven’t been getting proper sleep.  Honestly, given all the stress I’ve been under, it’s a wonder I still have hair on my head!

I’ve been neglecting my hair, to say the least, which left my tresses parched, lackluster, and broken. My first order of business (after a five-minute pout session)? You guessed it! I ran to my beauty cabinet to grab my deep conditioner. I added some grapeseed oil and rosemary essential oil, and liberally slathered it on every strand.  Then, I sat under my hooded dryer with a conditioning cap for 30 minutes. I usually only sit under the dryer for 20 minutes, but I figured my hair could use a little extra love. Thankfully, after rinsing out the conditioner, my hair was 100% revived. It instantly felt tangle-free and strong. I think my coils drank every drop of that deep conditioner. LOL! After that, I moisturized and sealed my hair.

The lesson? Even when unexpected things in life happen, don’t forget to take care of yourself! Obviously, the health of my mother is more important to me than the health of my hair, but it is too easy to forget yourself in the equation of life. So, remember to treat your hair kindly ladies. Things may not always go as planned (as far as hair goals are concerned), but when in doubt, go back to the basicsMOISTURE! MOISTURE! MOISTURE!


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2 responses to “HAIR SETBACK ALERT: What Do You Do When Things Don’t Go as Planned?

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